Sunday, May 22, 2016

Week 38-Bittersweet Saying Goodbye

Something new is always around the corner, but for now it is bittersweet to say goodbye~

Rick and I have served in the Tri Valley Young Single Adult (YSA) ward since August 2011 almost five years.  The first three years and nine months, Rick was a counselor in the bishopric with Bishop Farley and Brother Ranieri. This past year he has served as the ward executive secretary with Bishop Hahn, Brother Hemming, and Brother Erickson. While Rick had the callings, I hosted, taught marriage & family relations and temple prep classes, talked, listened, and gave and received hugs.  I am not sure what we will do without our kind hugs from everyone, especially Andy Black, nor how we will do without seeing all of the friendly faces we have grown to love so much!  

Five years has come and gone so, so fast.  Besides attending church on Sundays with the fun adult leaders and YSA, everyone has pitched in to host CES firesides, group dinners, RS nights, book clubs, pool parties and BBQs. We participated in regional activities, especially the first year where one event included several adults in the ward purchasing a total of 220 Costco pizzas to bring to the Oakland Stake Center to feed 1400 YSAs. We helped decorate and cook many times over for Charity Ball and New Year's Eve dances. In addition to attending the Oakland Temple regularly with the YSA, we traveled to the Sacramento Temple when Oakland was closed to do endowments and baptisms. 

For FHE and Saturday activities we carved pumpkins; ran relay races; had Nerf gun battles; did speed dating; guys brought dinner for the girls and the girls brought desserts for the guys; and participated in talent shows, especially when we dressed up with glow sticks and did the “Evolution of Dance” thanks to Sister Ranieri.  We helped with wedding showers and receptions; attended first temple endowments and marriage sealings; and fed missionaries.  We rafted the American River twice, which included one brave Morgan Reedy breaking her leg falling from a rope swing and her incredible YSA lifeguards, Whitney Brownlow being one of them, who saved the day. We witnessed Nick Green give his first healing blessing while standing in the river next to the raft, finally finished the river raft and then, carefully drove Morgan to meet her parents in our car all the way back to Dublin.  We have cleaned chapels, creeks, and beaches, danced and sang, and had a blast in this ward.

Leaving to go back to our home ward, where I am sure it will be more sedate, is bittersweet for we truly love all who make up the YSA ward past and present.  They have taught us much, loved us back, and kept us young at heart for which we will always be grateful.  

One of the many things I have loved about serving in the YSA ward was being able to share with each other our faith and testimonies.  Their examples of faith, courage, strength and testimony have made mine greater. I feel so blessed to have found the gospel of Jesus Christ restored by Joseph Smith and to know there is a plan of happiness. Knowing we have a prophet and apostles today to give us counsel from our Heavenly Father, along with the Book of Mormon and the Bible, provides instruction, wisdom, and comfort, especially when life's challenges are upon us.  I love a quote I once heard that reads "Joy is not the absence of pain, but the presence of God." We have the plan of happiness, but it does not mean along the way we won't have hard times.  

As President Uchtdorf explained we need to “focus on being thankful in our circumstances—whatever they may be”.  I use to tell my children I want them to be happy, but I have since learned there is so much more. Ralph Waldo Emerson says:  “The purpose of life is not to be happy.  It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well”.  I believe that if we strive to develop the characteristics of the Savior, we will learn “to be useful, honorable, compassionate, and live a life well lived” with our family and dear friends in homes, wards, neighborhoods and communities, which by my definition is lasting happiness and true joy!

How do we develop Christlike characteristics?  Line upon line; precept upon precept.  One step forward at a time moves us closer to God.  My license plate on my car shortened to fit the space is PRESS FORWARD (PRS4WRD).  Jesus Christ is the Savior of the World whom we need to align our lives with, for no matter what the world looks like now and in the future, those on His side will win.  We need be steadfast and have a perfect brightness of hope.  And when the going gets tough--and it will--President Holland says for that moment "to just stand. Just plant your feet and stand immovable for a while if that's all [we] can do". Stand firm and then when we can, press forward again.  DON’T GIVE UP!

Heavenly Father and the Savior love each of us wherever we are on our individual path. The Savior through His Atonement provides a way back for all of us and I know this to be true. My prayer for each of us in whatever circumstance is that our faith in the Savior and gratitude for His Atonement will lead us to do all we can for those God asks us to serve.  As we do this, we will move forward on our path toward our Heavenly Father.

I am so thankful for my family—four of our five children have attended the Tri Valley YSA ward while Rick and I have been here.  I admit it is not always easy having your parents serve in the young adult ward you attend.  Once my son Ryan smiling while we were driving home from the Tri Valley ward said, “Mom, you inhibit me.”  I replied with a smile:  “Ryan, you inhibit me.”  We both laughed and agreed that we should not feel self-conscious in each other’s presence in the ward.  Sometimes, we all may feel inhibited and hold back our true personalities and talents.  A ward family may be alike in faith and worship, but we need to celebrate and embrace the differences of each other, invite and welcome those friendships, for that is what makes a ward family beautiful where everyone will feel they belong.   We need to be missionaries to each other as well as inviting others new to join us.

I am so grateful for the husband I married, which was the best decision I have ever made.  I admire that he continually strives to be steadfast and hopeful from the time we were 15 when we met at Northgate high school in Walnut Creek, to the time we married in the Oakland Temple at 21, and now as he continues to be after 35 years of marriage.  

I am very thankful for all those we have met and served with in this ward, especially the two bishoprics and their wives along with the stake and ward representatives.  All of them love the YSA.  We love the YSA and we are so grateful for them for they have truly blessed our lives and filled them with joy; we will continue to pray for them each day.


Nerf gun battles with Tri Valley and 
Walnut Creek YSA wards
March 10, 2012


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